100 Dating Tips For Men From A PUA
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I got bored and decided to compile a list of random thoughts, quotes, and tips that relate to seduction success. Enjoy.
- Don't rush things, take one step at a time and enjoy each and every one of them.
- Don't worry about the things you cannot change.
- In the beginning we all know nothing.
- The best location to first touch a girl is the lower back. If you don't know where or how to physically escalate, start here.
- You can be a nice guy and still get laid, as long as you're a sexualized nice guy. This means you need to clarify your intentions through either actions (physical escalation), words (direct approaching), or both. I personally prefer to do this through actions.
- Foreplay begins the moment you touch her lower back and it lasts for an hour or more.
- All Gurus have one thing in common: they know they are right. Conviction of this level is a positive masculine trait that attracts women. Remember that it is OK to be wrong sometimes though, something many Gurus fail to realize.
- Speak in a deep voice at a medium to slow pace. Tonality is important in attraction.
- You don't have to be different. Just be yourself. Most girls view desperate attempts to be unique as awkward, needy, and inauthentic. Be who you are and be proud of it, even if you're just a normal guy.
- "Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering." - Yoda, Star Wars.
- Play games with girls. They're fun. My favorite is the five question game. I make a bet that she has to give me a kiss on the check if I win. At the last moment before she kisses me, I turn my head and get her on the lips instead, which always seems to get them excited.
- Closer to home is the best location.
- Use flavored, scented Chap Stick. It's great for kissing.
- There is a reason most Gurus say alcohol is cheating, because it gives you an advantage and it makes them look bad if they acknowledge this fact. Would a real man be this concerned of his reputation? Drink if you enjoy it, just don't overdo it.
- Feminists are our friends. Without the sexual liberation of women there can be no sexual liberation of men.
- Why make an enemy when you could make a friend?
- The greatest thing a man can do to up his social status is to never feel threatened by the thoughts and actions of others.
- Wear cologne. We should strive to be pleasing to all 5 of the senses.
- Women are afraid of being thought of as whores. So be weary of how, when and where you choose to approach them and escalate with them.
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- Smiling too much may be seen as inauthentic or needy. Smiling not enough will make you seem dry and dull. Find a suitable balance.
- The best opening line is: "Hi, my name is [blank]." Learn to say this with 100% confidence.
- It's not the shirt it's who wears it. I've been picking up in a five dollar t-shirt, jeans, a necklace, and a baseball cap for years and it has yet to fail me.
- No matter what a woman says, she wants to get laid too. She just doesn't realize this until she's aroused.
- No means no except when it means yes.
- The end all technique for defeating last minute resistance is to build such powerful comfort that she never resists at all.
- Most girls can be bedded with about 3 to 4 hours of time invested in them but in some cases it will take more time.
- 30-50% of all women I meet are willing to suck my dick in public on the first date. Yes, I've been keeping track of this. Remember this the next time you hear a girl say "I would never do that on a first date."
- Girls are more attracted to a man who has the power to create wealth than to a man who has wealth.
- I am a man, nothing more and nothing less. The world will suffer me in my natural form and I make no apologies for this.
- "Let me give you some advice, bastard: never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you." - Tyrion Lannister, Game of Thrones.
- With sufficient privacy you can escalate to sex. Be mindful of your surroundings and date locations. Always try to maximize privacy.
- The most expensive things in life are often free. So most people are weary of those who give themselves away without caution.
- Sex is for you not them. Exit the slave mentality and focus on finding your own pleasure in the bedroom. Don't try to fit the square peg in the round hole just because someone else told you that's where it belongs.
- All women, of all races, creeds and colors want the exact same thing in a man. Someone who is masculine, powerful, and has high social status. Everything else boils down to personal preference and societal restrictions.
- Rejection happens to everyone who makes approaches and to no one who doesn't.
- Don't dwell in the past, you cannot change it.
- You must constantly push yourself to move forward. When you hit plateaus you have to keep pushing to make it through them. Sometimes this also requires change.
- You will never achieve something if you believe you cannot achieve it.
- Testosterone, insulin and all the other chemicals in your body dictate how you feel. Learn to balance them and your confidence and energy will naturally become balanced as well.
- Investing in yourself will always lead to more profits in the long run. Study hard, train hard.
- Net game will give you lots of practice interacting with women without the anxiety of approaching. It's a good place to start getting comfortable with women, and an easy place to score dates.
- One of the best ways to learn pickup is to go out with guys that know what they are doing. If you meet one in real life, make friends with him and learn from him.
- Men get more attractive with age up until their mid to late thirties. So to the young guys out there, please remember that it does get easier.
- Women become more sexualized with age up to a certain point. This makes dating these older women a great experience sometimes.
- Lifting your chin up slightly will give you a more dominant, masculine look. Lowering your chin slightly will give you a more feminine, submissive look.
- Treat your friends and brothers in the field with respect.
- You don't have to target the hottest chick in every group. Remember, everyone else does this too.
- If you believe a girl is too good for you or if you believe you have to do something special to get her. The chances are you never will. Women want a man they place value in, not a man who places value in them.
- Nothing you ever do is awkward. If you feel awkward then she will feel awkward, so conviction in all of your actions is a must for building comfort.
- Don't brag about how awesome you are, show how awesome you are. If you can't show it, then don't bother mentioning it, bragging is extremely needy and supplicating behavior.
- Hear and forget. See and remember. Do and understand. Get in the field and practice.
- Parties and social events are the best places to meet women in high volume. In a social setting, talking to people and meeting strangers is acceptable behavior, so women will be much more open to your advances.
- For net game, always analyze the following to determine if she's hot (hint: you don't need her picture): her email address, her job, her hobbies, her age, her level of investment.
- Instead of focusing on all the details, get lost in a world with your companions. Internalizing all the tiny details of game will come in time. It's not something that happens overnight. When you're in the field you shouldn't be thinking about this stuff though. Just live in the moment and work out where you succeeded and failed later.
- Disagreeing with the truth doesn't change it.
- Coconut oil makes awesome lube. It also cures yeast infections. It's good for your skin, it smells good, and it tastes good. It becomes a solid at fairly high temperatures though, so you have to heat it up before use sometimes. It's not water based however so it might not be good to use with condoms.
- Other men will hate you once you get good at anything. They will especially hate you if you're good with women. Ignore them if they hate you because it means you're doing something right and they're doing something wrong.
- Older women can be a lot of fun in bed. Give them a try sometime.
- "Give them nothing, but take from them everything." - Leonidas, 300.
- Learn how to exercise properly and get some real athletic goals. Your perception of the world changes when your level of physical fitness is in the top tier. You need to experience it before you can understand it, so get used to pushing yourself to the limit physically.
- 24 hour fasting (dinner till dinner nothing but water) once or twice a week is an incredible way to up your energy levels and cut fat. Keep an open mind and try it if you're in a slump. The main reason it's great is because it helps you balance your insulin levels.
- Alcohol increases testosterone in the short term. Testosterone makes you more confident and hornier. It also makes women more confident and hornier.
- Often the best weapon to use against a cockblock is to simply ignore them.
- Maximize the positive masculine traits that you have control over: deep voice, broad shoulders, physical strength, chiseled face, confidence, leadership, dominance, extraversion, and being unaffected in the presence of other powerful people.
- Minimize the negative masculine traits that you have control over: aggressive / violent behavior, controlling, jealous, and being overly hard headed.
- Approach anxiety will be lessened with success and compounded with failure. If you find yourself failing too often this is a sign you need to focus on serious self improvement and health issues. Fix your physical and mental state and keep them fixed.
- Learn to reframe anything that is said in such a way that words can no longer be used to harm you.
- To get a girl back to your place you have to invite her there. The best way to do this is through a command / suggestion rather than question, for example: "Let's go back to my place." The reason this is better is because it makes it your decision not hers. When girls are faced with making the decision about whether to have sex or not, they will usually choose to not have sex in order to protect their ego and reputation. Get used to telling them what to do rather than asking them.
- "As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." - Nelson Mandela
- The number one mistake men make with physical escalation is they think that kissing / hand holding comes first. These are heavy investments on the girl's part and they won't be welcomed without sufficient comfort and arousal. The first place you start the arousal process is with your hand on her lower back.
- "The nail that stands up is the one that gets smacked down" (Japanese proverb), but this no longer has meaning once you become the hammer.
- Running / cycling / swimming intensely for 20-50 minutes before a date is a great way to prepare. It gets your blood flowing which both sharpens you mentally and improves your complexion for a few hours after completion.
- Powerful story telling abilities can help you to entertain and attract women. It also conveys the message to women that you're extroverted and good with people. The key to doing this well is in the use of gestures, appropriate pauses, well timed delivery and tonality. What the story is about doesn't even really matter much.
- Mundane questions like "Where are you from?" "What do you do?" or "What are your hobbies?" are OK to ask. Every sentence out of your mouth doesn't have to be an avalanche of DHV rubbish or the most entertaining thing she has heard all day. Often just conveying the fact that you're normal is enough to score a date with most girls.
- The worst thing that can happen if you call or text a girl that isn't responsive is you getting rejected. The best thing that can happen is you getting laid. Don't give up easily, perfect 10's have busy schedules and can't always fit you in right away.
- A few healthy foods that naturally increase testosterone: nuts, whole milk, olive oil, garlic, oysters.
- Oysters contain zinc which is essential for testosterone production. It can be a difficult mineral to get depending on your diet which is why a multivitamin including zinc can be very beneficial to your health. Be careful though, zinc is also easy to overdose in and can cause some side effects if you do. Zinc gluconate is supposedly the best form to take as a supplement.
- Picking up should be fun. When you're with your buddies in the field, enjoy your banter with them, it makes the experience better for everyone and puts you in the right mood for approaching.
- Top notch health is one of the most powerful weapons in pickup. Take care of yourself.
- When in doubt aim for cleanliness. This tip is related to everything aesthetic from your facial hair to the socks you put on. Clean is always better.
- Women want to be lead, so get used to being a leader. Choose your date locations, activities, and everything in between. Get used to giving commands rather than asking questions.
- Avoid sugary drinks and food. They make your breath stink.
- Stop giving a fuck and become outcome independent. Honestly, the easiest way to do this is to bang lots of chicks and fill your schedule with social activities. Once you do this you'll be so busy you won't have time to care about where your interaction with some random chick leads to.
- The puppet master does everything he wants to do and the puppet does everything he is told to do. Which are you?
- "You see, as king, you must find the good in any situation." - Longshanks, Braveheart.
- Girl's that want to be entertained will enjoy your company all night without fucking you. Girl's that are down to fuck will go on a date soon after meeting you. This is why it's easier to get lots of numbers in one night and schedule dates afterwards, than to go out and focus fire one girl in hopes of landing a one night stand. It requires less time in field as well. I used to think focus firing was better, since then I've changed my mind, but in the end I just do whatever I feel like doing.
- Just because you think differently from someone else, doesn't mean you should be forced to live in their world.
- Don't shit where you eat.
- Don't over think things. Get out of your head when you're in the field. The best way to do this is to joke around with your friends.
- The Dunning-Kruger Effect, Lawrence Kohlberg's Stages of Moral Development, and Motivated Reasoning are three important reads for understanding basic human psychology in pickup. Look them up in Wikipedia.
- If you want hardcore results, you have to play on hardcore mode.
- To do what other men can't, you have to do what other men won't.
- Take away a man's motivation to live and he becomes reduced to nothing. One of my motivations in life is having sex with beautiful women, and not being able to do this in a monogamous relationship is like forcing a left handed person to write with their right hand. It screws them up.
- Self-awareness is the master key that unlocks all doors in life. Learn to understand your emotions and then you can learn to control them. Learn the science behind it and you'll be a step ahead of all the competition.
- Canned material isn't as bad as it's made out to be. It can be useful for entertaining a boring date, or even a group of friends. It can help relax you on a date because you won't have to worry about not having something to talk about.
- Silence isn't as bad as it seems either. Don't get worried if you find frequent moments of silence. A girl who is interested in you will help you fill those gaps.
- In the movies, they want you to think players are all "bad" guys that never succeed in the end, but the truth is whatever you make it to be.
- If you haven't busted your ass 5 days a week in the gym for at least a year, don't tell me there is no way you can improve your situation. Only a very small subset of mankind is incapable of aesthetic self-improvement, and those are mostly people with real physical disabilities. Shut up and get in the gym, it's the easiest way to change your life for the better. Don't give me any shit about bad knees, bad backs or anything else either. I've had knee surgery once, wrist surgery twice, a hernia, and an ankle ligament that was completely torn in half. I still run the mile in under 5 minutes and bench 200 lbs. The only thing stopping you from getting fit is most likely you.
- Net game tip: go for chicks without pictures up, they are either ugly and shy or extremely hot and hate getting spammed. You should be able to figure this out with a read through their profile and a few email exchanges.
- A lot of pickup is just about taking action. I never learned this stuff from a book, never read any pickup literature until after I had already written my first book on seduction. The reason I learned this stuff was because I went out in the field every single week for years, and I watched and learned from some of the best PUAs in the world.
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